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What is the answer? I think our whole society needs a swift re-evaluation of the situation that we have created. Teenagers are not a problem to be solved. If they were allowed to be the people they are becoming,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the problem would go away - naturally. I homeschooled my daughters and never had a problem with the teen years. Why? Because they were doing adult things in an adult world. Now I know that homeschooling is not possible or practical for many families so how could we accomplish what I am suggesting? First the schools need to be totally restructured.
In our society we have come so far from this natural model. We isolate our children, often from birth, into unnatural groups; childcare, babysitters, early childhood learning, kindergarten, grade school……and on and on. If that were not bad enough, we keep them tied to an isolated group of age mates until they are at least 18 years old. This is at least 5 years beyond puberty and the ability to reproduce. We give them no 'place' in our society so they have created a place for themselves - Teenagers,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]! I hear so much about Troubled Teens, The Problems of the Teen years, Teen Hormones etc.
I currently see millions of dollars being spent on rehab, counseling, drug courts, and other resources to try and stem the tide of drug addiction among teenagers. Unfortunately, these are all 'after-the-fact' repair mechanisms and do not deal with the root cause. In my opinion we do not give our young people the knowledge or life-skills that they need to be able to take care of themselves.
We also keep them 'children' for way too long. What do I mean by this? Let me explain. All creatures learn survival skills from their parents and the similar creatures around them. These skills begin at birth and continue until adulthood. Adulthood usually means the time that they can reproduce. This applies to animals as well as humans. In many cultures, viewed by the western world as primitive, children learn all adult skills from when they are very small. They learn the dangers -fire burns and knives cut - by seeing and eventually doing. By the time they reach puberty, they are ready to be accepted into the adult community. They have a place and a responsibility. They are raised, for the most part, to support their community as well as their mate and children - not just their own children but all the children of the community. They know that the survival of their community depends on teaching the children what they need to know. So the cycle continues.
So, what are we, this wonderful western society that we have created, teaching our young people about themselves? We teach them that they are an isolated group. They have no actual purpose in our lives. We do not need them in our communities. They serve no useful purpose until they emerge as a twentyager, where hopefully they can find some productive work. They are constantly reminded that the teen years are hard. That teenagers cause problems. That teenagers ARE a problem and we, the wise ones here, are working on a solution to the problem. Is it any wonder that they turn to drugs and alcohol? I do not think so!
When you think about this,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it is pretty ridiculous. We do not talk about Twentyagers as a group nor yet Fortyagers, so why Teenagers? Because they have had to defined themselves, to give them the power that we are denying them. By the time people reach the twenties, they are at last perceived as adults and mix freely with people of all ages. Alongside that we have a huge, and I do mean huge, industry built on this teenage culture. Everything from teen music, to teen clothes to the best drugs for teen problems. Ritalin comes to mind here, which made millions for the pharmaceutical companies. Also we have a self fulfilling prophecy as we expect the 'teens' to have problems. This is far from the expectations of the primitive society who expect a young person to be an asset to the whole community.
In my opinion they need to be structured like a college. From the very first years in a schoo